—在怦然之後--關於愛情的16堂課–

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• 愛回到最初：為什麼我們要談戀愛？

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12.       Ein-Dor, T., et al., The Attachment Paradox: How Can So Many of Us (the Insecure Ones) Have No Adaptive Advantages? Perspectives on Psychological Science, 2010. 5(2): p. 123-141.

13.       Rohrbaugh, M.J., et al., Prognostic Significance of Spouse We Talk in Couples Coping With Heart Failure. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 2008. 76(5): p. 781-789.

14.       Gabriel, S., et al., Negative Self-Synchronization: Will I Change to Be Like You When It Is Bad for Me? Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2010. 98(6): p. 857-871.

 

 

 

• 好人，再見：締造吸引力的四個關鍵

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2.         Shelton, J.N., et al., From strangers to friends: The interpersonal process model of intimacy in developing interracial friendships. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 2010. 27(1): p. 71-90.

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• 愛情進化論[壹]：激情愛和伴侶愛

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• 愛情進化論[貳]：關於愛情的三個重要階段

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• 可以想想我嗎？同理心與原諒

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• 怒吼與沈默：災難四騎士與衝突管理模式

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• 退一步，海闊天空？--關係中的犧牲與忍讓

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• 擁抱不了的安全感[壹]：戀愛與依戀系統的運作

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• 為了你成為更好的自己：米開朗基羅現象

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• 戴上玫瑰色眼鏡：彼此眼裡的愛情

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